
Helmut Kohl, German chancellor for 16 years, remains a controversial figure. To many he is the architect of reunification, a great European who helped to bring down the Wall and enabled the country to be whole again. But others regard him as an political opportunist whose use of illegal campaign contributions tarnished his party, the conservative Christian Democratic Union (CDU).
Earlier this year the former Chancellor’s son Walter Kohl published Live Your Life or Be Lived: First Steps on the Path to Reconciliation, a warts-and-all biography about their difficult relationship.
‘For my father, politics was, and is, his true home,’ Walter Kohl wrote, sweeping away the picture-perfect image that Kohl had cultivated for his family. ‘His real family had the name CDU, not Kohl. He considered himself, in an archaic sense, the head of a tribe called the CDU. Somewhere along the way, in his internal perception, he and the party fused into one.’
Over 272 pages Walter Kohl bemoans the fact that his father was almost always away from home.
Then last week Heribert Schwan’s The Woman at his Side: the Life and Sufferings of the Hannelore Kohl (Die Frau an seiner Seite: Leben und Leiden der Hannelore Kohl) arrived on Germany’s bookshops. Her heartbreaking story is seeped in Faustian tragedy: at the age of twelve Hannelore and her mother were raped by Soviet soldiers, then tossed out of a first floor window, from which Hannelore sustained terrible injuries. For evermore the ‘smell of male sweat, garlic and alcohol, and even the sound of spoken Russian’ haunted her. In the search for a quiet life she married Kohl, then a provincial politician, never expecting him to enter national politics. When he became Chancellor she tried to hide herself away from the glare of publicity, or at least behind wigs and thick makeup. Her reticence earned her the nickname of ‘Barbie doll’. She only learned of her husband’s plan to run again in the 1998 general election on the television news. In 2001 she committed suicide after contracting a crippling allergy following a course of misdiagnosed antibiotics.

Heribert Schwan, a political biographer and a former editor at Westdeutsche Rundfunk, had access to Hannelore for more than a decade. Over the last years of her life, he became her confidant, recording her darkest fears and secrets. In his book he reveals the tragic story of a woman who lived in the shadows of a fanatically ambitious husband.
Helmet Kohl didn’t sell his soul to the devil but he was obsessed by politics, which took absolute priority over his family and his wife. Men and women who lead nations – not least one trying to reunite itself after four decades’ of division – cannot be expected to have lives like the rest of us. Presidents do not get long lie-ins on Sunday mornings. Prime ministers don’t have time to picnic in the park with their children.
The families of influential women and men have always suffered; that’s a given. Power often leads to sacrifice and pain. Temptation is always lurking, of course, whispering in ones ear, ‘How much must I pay? What will you accept?’ But must ambitious individuals surrender moral integrity in order to achieve success? That is the question which partners, their children and the general public need to ask of them, as we need to ask of ourselves.















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